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Does your partner's previous sex life bother you?

What are you looking down here for - okay, yeah it bothers me.  So shoot me.

Posted - Wed at 12:23 AM

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  • 608
    I've always, genuinely wondered if it's fair to let that be a factor. 

    If I suspect that it might, hypothetically, bother me if she had slept with 'many' people (whatever number we put on it) before our relationship, then that should oblige me to follow the same standard. (I know I don't want to be a hypocrite.) But if I follow that standard too strictly for too long, it makes me the weird or undesirable one... 

    I'd like to say that I wouldn't judge my partner, one way or the other. Whether that is concretely true... I'm not sure.
      September 15, 2021 4:06 AM MDT
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  • 6126
    Fair enough, I guess.  What is good for the gander etc.  But should not become like a competition, because one's desires and opportunities  will often differ widely from another's.  And if sex is the main thing keeping you together then that will not work at all.
      September 15, 2021 7:24 AM MDT
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  • 608
    That's sensible. Nice to see you back! 

    Would you say there's typically a difference here between men and women? Is a man supposed to go out and accumulate more sexual experience?
      September 16, 2021 5:19 AM MDT
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  • 27761
    No. As long as it is not an issue now.  ie. Unknown children popping up, STDs, old partners making contact, etc. 
      September 15, 2021 6:10 AM MDT
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  • 7104
    I have no idea what her sexual status is, but the way I see it, better him than me.
      September 15, 2021 6:47 AM MDT
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  • 6126
    Nope.  Rather his current sex life.  Or lack thereof. 
      September 15, 2021 7:19 AM MDT
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    756
    Not at all. 
      September 16, 2021 5:24 AM MDT
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  • 19119

    What partner?


    :) Ha




    This post was edited by WelbyQuentin at September 17, 2021 7:55 PM MDT
      September 17, 2021 7:38 PM MDT
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  • 7515
    You took my answer! 

    Ha! 

    :)
      September 17, 2021 7:56 PM MDT
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  • 19119
     :)

    Yes, ha! :)
      September 17, 2021 8:02 PM MDT
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  • 7515
    Hypothetically, I'd be most concerned about disease. Other than that, I don't think I'd consider anyone as a potential partner until I trusted that I knew him well enough to decide if I'd be interested in a relationship. Previous relationships would be a consideration in that, but not a sole determining factor. 
      September 17, 2021 8:01 PM MDT
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