How would you tolerate being forced to live in an assisted living facility?

Yeah. I'd only last two years.

 

  LOL!

*Randy D sidles up to you, looks around to make sure no one can hear what you two are talking about and whispers, “Listen, the word’s out that you’re planning to fly the coop. Let me go with you, would you? I won’t slow you down a bit, I promise I won’t, in fact, I can help you! I’m the one who delivers the gelatin cups to everyone just before the screws make their rounds.  I have access all over this place, I can get you through doors that nobody else can. You’re going to need a guy like me. Take me with you, that’s all I ask. I’m sure you know how this place has been driving me crazy! I can’t take this much longer. They denied me request to be transferred to a facility in Minneapolis because I don’t have any family there. They keep letting Livvie in to see me on visitors day, no matter how many times I tell them she’s out to ruin me. They won’t let me change the sign at the front gate that reads drive-thru (Grrrrrrr). The other day they insisted I have to eat food with mayonnaise in it just like everyone else. And how about that psychiatrist they make me see to convince me that collecting tildes is a dangerous and meaningless delusion? I can’t stay here, I can’t! What do you say, will you take me with you?”
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"Alright, I'll cut you in!  But if anything goes wrong, it's every man for himself, see!"

 

  There is one I’m familiar with here in San Diego that’s similar to what you describe above. I was doing volunteer work and we went there to pick up some equipment that the management was donating to the volunteer group. Others in my group had been there before, and later told me it’s one of the priciest such facilities in the whole county. I’m telling you, that place looks like a resort hotel complex, the lap of luxury, and it’s big, too. It is spread out over several dozen acres, has many different buildings and outdoor areas, quiet, peaceful, calm, etc. 

  I would have to sell off my entire tilde holdings, my royalties from grammar citations, and all of my Harem-related assets to ever afford living in a place like that!

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The place I'm talking about is, and has always been, family owned....no corporate anything.  The owners and workers are all caring and a lot of fun.  The building has 70 apartments and is one story frame.  It isn't one of the new grand and fine estate-looking places.  The decor is homey and clean.  She is now in long term care and I don't think she will ever be able to leave.  We found we needed her to be accessible by actual medical personnel so we are trying to deal with that.  At least she is in our town now so we can run by very often.  I really do not want to live when I get to the point  I can't stay in my own house.

Oh yes, the cost is crazy. Florida is the only state I know of where low-income people get help with assisted living.  That is a shame. There may be other; I don't know.   Long-term care is different and has a medicaid benefit at facilities that accept it.  Not all do.   You have to spend down your assets before it kicks in.  And I am telling you it can eat up a life's work and savings in no time.  Distribute your wealth while you are alive so you can be poor when you are old enough to need a nursing home.  That has to be complete at least five years before you need the help.  There is plenty to read about all of this when you're ready to make those kinds of plans.  This post was edited by Thriftymaid at May 2, 2022 4:12 PM MDT

Hell with that.

Ditto!