Would you please share your thoughts about and/or experience(s) with significant* age gap relationships?

Wouldn't it be amazing if somehow turning 30 made everyone a mature adult?
For some reason I'm recalling the time a 55-year-old drunk driver totaled my car, injuring me and my young child. Even though I was more than 20 years his junior, I maintain that I was the mature adult in that situation!

I do see your point. Thanks for responding. 

If it weren't for those two eloquent and thoughtful paragraphs in the middle, I'd say you've been hanging out with Randy D too much! 

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  Hey, wait! Grrrrrrrrr. 

 

(Lol.)
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Hehe, I didn't mean to sound overly serious. If I did... I suppose there are other factors, too. Say, an added need for reassurance. 

Couples who are about the same age don't wonder if their partner would be better off with someone older or younger, do they? (Well, for all I know, they might.) In an inter-generational relationship, I can see that being a subject: for one, the older half may think the person they love deserves to be with someone who has more time and physical ability, no matter how the younger half demonstrates awareness of that and wants for nothing regardless.

That's probably the more obvious aspect, but it could be the other way around too, if a younger person feels inadequate on a different level -- emotionally or intellectually. They haven't yet garnered the experience their loved one has; they may worry they don't always please their partner in that way; they may show their immaturity sometimes and make excuses for it, while under pressure to act older than their age lest any outsiders view them as "kept" only because they're young.

Isn't it ironic that, the more emotionally intelligent people are, the more likely they are to have these worries? Then again, they're also more likely to deal with them appropriately. Anyway, this was sort of focused on potential hang-ups, without regard for the fact that there are beautiful flipsides to all of them. If the rare couple can combine their energy and their outlooks--be wise and youthful, both of which can stem from either source--they may just as well have the best of both worlds. 

Or so I feel. 

Quite confidently. This post was edited by Danilo_G at May 17, 2024 2:44 AM MDT

Hey, I'm sorry, I'm not aware of what I did... What does CC mean?

Cosmological Constant my end. I'm only king. Hey don't take it seriously. Hey! Where you going!? Oh I get it. Some people can't take a joke  This post was edited by CosmicWunderkind at April 21, 2024 1:28 PM MDT

Hehe, I didn't realize, but I've liked your cosmological constant discussion in the meantime! Cool question, and cool answers.

Man! You know I want to be close and a wiseass won't work for me. I'm so glad you understand. I was just thinking worldly again and wonder if people are just becoming more bizarrely tempestuous these days you know? And why? Or is it my fear of rejection. China ban Tik Tok not Democrats you blemish on enlightenment! Nice guy but railroaded into a particular dead end belief system. A puritan firebrand.
This post was edited by CosmicWunderkind at April 21, 2024 2:02 PM MDT

Maybe they are becoming more bizarrely tempestuous, yeah. Or there could be more potential for misunderstandings when our manner of communication has changed so much overall, switching to the digital side. I don't know; it's hard to keep track of such changes, over time, objectively. Being fair-weathered and untempestuous can be challenging for all of us sometimes, can't it? This post was edited by Danilo_G at April 21, 2024 2:56 PM MDT

"Emotions of the moment" doesn't lie. I think Future Shock, not just meaning the book, may definitely be approaching if it's not already here. There too many, "things". ADHD city. This post was edited by CosmicWunderkind at April 21, 2024 4:20 PM MDT

Don't thank me, thank Music is savior or whomever for saying it just the universe expanding and every year we are two inches more away from the moon. Interesting right there if is correct.

I certainly agree with you about children, and the no guarantees. 

It's interesting how our perceptions of such things can change over time, or (more likely) due to circumstances. 

I think that makes good sense, but also that the fact of no guarantees offers some degree of inherent counterpoint. 

My mother had another child at 43 -- which is not exactly the age we're talking about here, but my point is that she'll be the first to admit there are ways in which she is a better parent now. (Not that I ever hold anything against her.) I don't feel like anyone with the desire to have children should let old age, in itself, hamper them. Even a short time spent with a loving parent seems better than a long period with any other kind. And, I would hope, better than never existing at all. But that's a more complex question yet. 

Does the matter change if we factor in adoption? Because it also seems better than never really having a parent to begin with.

Good points.

Thanks, Jane. Concerning adoption, I would joke that it's ethical to have children, but unethical to make them.

If she's a generation older than you, I want the name of her plastic surgeon! 

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It looks more like photo editing to me. I look gorgeous in my selfies.