What would be better, for people to expect a lot from you or to expect nothing?
On one hand I feel like it would be liberating if most anybody expected nothing and sorta like just went away. On the other hand that sounds like a jerk thing to say. What about you?
Hi Lago, ima go with neither of those exactly... Because the people around me, they pretty much always know they can expect something...but what and how much, THAT is wide open...often (hopefully) even better than they originally wanted.
As I get older, with some health issues, I set tighter boundaries, too...and priorities, sometimes difficult.
There it is Ms Pearl, as much as I feel like I would love to be free of expectation, im afraid that without it I would feel useless. I'd probably grow a beard, and go watch birds fly every day in the woods.. .somewhere.. . Thank you...
I mean that people should keep there expectation of me low thus avoiding disappointment in my not meeting exaggerated expectations. This applies to life in general.
The people who expect something from me are usually the ones least deserving, thinking what they do for who they kiss up to must somehow be rewarded by me. I've seen people bend over backwards to please someone they hardly know, at my expense, and when done ask me for a favor. Like, don't you think I remember how you slighted me for the delight of someone you just met and now you think we are friends? Go figure. Seems we never were.
This post was edited by O-uknow at April 2, 2017 11:23 PM MDT
Well yeah, there's always those. And like you say, they were never friends, . . I don't think. . . I have fallen for those. . .but I usually fall once. . . It happens.
When I was in grade school my parent expected too much of me because of the great academic and professional successes of my forefathers four generations back. I did not do well in school. When they informed that they thought they had been expecting too much and maybe I felt that I couldn't live up to those expectations, I became a much better student. It was better not to be expected to do too much.
I felt kind of the same, the academic expectations on me where pretty heavy. But perhaps it is a matter of personality. I know, for sure, that without that, I would have been perfectly happy sitting under a tree writing poems and jokes. Im glad you were able to maneuver that situation successfully and became better.
That sounds a lot like when people say, I don't care about what others think about me... something that we say a lot. . . I certainly do. . . But that im not sure is entirely true. . . Do you know what I mean?
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