How do you know you're not gay if you haven't really tried it?
Would you like tea if you haven't smelled it, and tasted it? Would you know you like iced persimmon tea (tea with persimmon) if you've only tried hot unsweetened black tea on several occasions?
I'm pretty sure most people of sexual maturity can tell who they're attracted to or not without indulging... Based on the logic of this question, a person should attempt to sleep with every possible variant to determine what they're attracted to. Blonde hair/ blue eyes one day, brown hair/ brown eyes the next, a body builder once, someone morbidly obese the next day... ooh, and variants of all those as well, you know, to be scientific about it all. O_o Or not.
I agree, what we is usually pretty easy to figure out. What we are "not" get's us into the concept of what is necessary and what is sufficient to have us be sure of that.
I find it odd that people just 'know what they're into (women / men) at 15. I mean, there are a huge variety of sexuality and it's not just hetero/homo but by default people just are classified into 'hetero' just because. I mean how many married women are actually attracted to the male genitals for example when heterosexuality is generally defined to be attracted to the opposite sex' genitals. It's pretty weird when you think of the facets.
And yes, think about dating outside of your own heritage/race for example or someone from a total different social class. You can't really know who you'd be a great fit with. It's sort of like being great friends with someone new.
I could be the only one but maybe we're brainwashed into oversimplifying sexuality and into being straight. I mean you may not have had a comprehensive, unbiased sex ed and sexual ideas are put into our heads. After all even babies and children masturbate or do things with each other before even knowing what anything of sex. It just feels good, full stop.
This post was edited by D&D at June 5, 2017 8:10 PM MDT
You don't have to be gay to he able to enjoy doing same sex activities. It can be fun but the gay guys always tell me I am too straight. My gal friend says she has experimted with other girls and enjoy the pleasure as well.
A drunk guy once came over to me (during a night out), gave me a hug, and kissed me on the cheek. I don't think he intended anything sexual, he was just in a really happy mood. Anyways, I hated it. His stubble felt terrible pressed against my face. I don't feel attracted to men, so I'm not gay or bi.
tom jackson 