Just to reassure you.. nothing of the sort was intended.. I personally don't believe men or women need sex.. want it yes, desire it yes, but need - no.. Perhaps someone with a sex addiction might.. but even that's not a guaranteed position.. The questioner didn't mention gender - I absolutely grant you that.. but it seemed implied... and generally speaking female sex workers are the more common.. and where there are male sex workers many of their services are utilised by men... perhaps we are being a bit finicky but yes, I always seek to be fair bearing in mind that there are real and nurtured differences between men and women when it comes to sex generally.. my hobby is sexology so yes, I do take on board female thoughts, feelings and attitudes towards sex.. We agree but technically speaking you are correct that I didn't address the female side of things.. usually I do things on here in way too much of a hurry, in between other things and always trying to get as many answers in as possible.. Perhaps I should slow down :)
I take your point..about government run sex centres... it's an interesting idea.. but I still think, it's exploitative and in a direction we really ought not to go.. This goes deeper.. should we really encourage people paying women, particularly for sex? I heard an interesting debate once.. Michael Sandell, an American I think, calls himself the public philosopher or something, (see I am rushing again lol) and one of his debates included dwarf throwing and prostitution.. Dwarf throwing is where people of restricted height are paid to be thrown.. I do see comparisons.. Sandell asked.. even though the people of restricted height were consenting.. was it really non-exploitative... and even though they get paid.. is it really ok? The person of restricted height gets money.. but they risk their life, they get hurt.. it isn't at all a pleasant job.. I see again direct comparisons there.. Professional women, (and men!) risk their lives, both in terms of STDs, (condoms don't protect against everything and if they break it's the sex worker who gets stung)... And they get hurt.. and it's not a pleasant job.. Anyone who thinks it is is sorely mistaken and really doesn't understand how it works.. They don't get to choose and actually it isn't nice to have to have sex with someone who is really unappealing.. not to mention may be violent, aggressive, derogatory or rough..
This feeds into your point, with which I agree - about it being part of a lifestyle.. well not always as that doesn't apply to people who are trafficked or held hostage by making them dependent on drugs.. .but yes, many of the women are poor and need the money, perhaps not able to easily find other work.. But see, that is what I am saying.. SHOULD we allow such people to be exploited, even if they are willing.. how willing are they.. maybe they feel they have few alternatives? Is that the answer? It's like the dwarves.. IS it ok..
You point to high class women who make almost a career out of it.. yes, those exist.. but they are the minority, And they are also at risk both from STDs and violence/murder, quite often they have to do more to earn their money too...Selling sex is one of the oldest professions.. but I wonder... doesn't it really say something about attitudes to women that we believe that men, (usually men) have the right to buy sex.. I wonder if a whole attitude shift isn't really needed here..
Just my thoughts :)
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