I am not sure I have experienced that.. I have experienced it where I wasn't keen on someone but once I got to know them and got used to their ways, I found them actually pretty ok.
This reminds me of my active duty days when I returned from being deployed overseas* and had to adjust and/or re-adjust to changes in my wife and children, and they in me. This is a common (and not always easy/successfully) circumstance of military couples and military families.
[Edited] *without my family
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This post was edited by Randy D at August 22, 2018 8:26 AM MDT