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Which is more important pleasing yourself or pleasing your companion?

Posted - January 13, 2020

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  • 14795
    Its  nice if you get back what you give ,but as my dad once told my mum ,it's far better to recieve than it is to give .....so he has to give her all his money and he gets a far better deal in return if you ask me...

    My dad is always smiling and my mum is always tired and sleeps well after...   ;)D 
      January 13, 2020 5:12 AM MST
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  • 10026
    It sounds they have it worked out where both parties win.
    Good for them and thanks for answering!
    :):)
      January 13, 2020 12:36 PM MST
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  • 53503
    Yes. 
    ~
      January 13, 2020 5:41 AM MST
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  • 10026
    Yes?  Are you tossing a coin?  I always take tails.  I've been told I have a nice one and men always pick head when given a choice.
    I win.  It is better to give because when you do it correctly, the joy is felt by both. ;) :).
    Thanks for answering and always great to see your ~.
      
      January 13, 2020 12:40 PM MST
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  • 53503

      You make it sound as if I show my tilde to just anyone.  Oh, wait, that’s exactly what I do. 

      January 13, 2020 10:52 PM MST
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  • 10026
    It's the wave in your hair.... I'm sure of it!!
    Big Winks and Smiles!
      January 13, 2020 11:24 PM MST
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  • 53503

      I don’t know what you’re talking about. 


    ~
      January 13, 2020 11:28 PM MST
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  • 44602
    A happy wife means a happy life...sort of.
      January 13, 2020 12:02 PM MST
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  • 10026
    A wise man you are and a lucky wife you have.  The question now turns. "Are you feeling lucky today...?"
    Thanks Element.  You're tops! ;) :) This post was edited by Merlin at January 13, 2020 10:52 PM MST
      January 13, 2020 12:41 PM MST
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  • 44602
      January 13, 2020 3:26 PM MST
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  • 10026
    Exactly!!!
    Big Giggles!
      January 13, 2020 3:33 PM MST
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  • 44602
    Dirty Harry was the best.
      January 13, 2020 3:38 PM MST
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  • 10026
    I am so tempted to write, I like dirty but not Harry.  I would but I am a big Clint Eastwood fan.
    So, this leads me to, I will accept "Harry" at this juncture.
    Big Winks and Smiles!
      January 13, 2020 3:42 PM MST
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  • That all depends. 
    Did he buy me new shoes.?
      January 13, 2020 3:46 PM MST
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  • 2836
    He did. God awful green ones
      January 13, 2020 4:56 PM MST
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  • My shoes are soooo purty.  Now you tell me.  Which would you rather gaze at in fascination, all your green money or my green shoes?  Awww sweetie I thought so.


    Shoes win.
    Shoes always win.

    Luvs ya!
      January 13, 2020 5:47 PM MST
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  • 2836
    YES!!! Things of beauty they are.
    Every time you glide into a room with those adorning your feet I let out a gasp.

    Trust me honey bunny, I'm still able to gaze with fascination at both your shoes AND my money. lol

    Luvs ya, back!
      January 13, 2020 5:59 PM MST
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  • 2836
    Lets just say I have an oral fixation

      January 13, 2020 4:57 PM MST
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  • I didnt know you followed the teachings of Oral Robert's.  Did you attend Oral University?


      January 13, 2020 5:53 PM MST
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  • 2836
    Not exactly, but I'm working on my Masters...
    Wanna help me with my homework latter?


      January 13, 2020 6:05 PM MST
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  • 46117
    Image result for oral roberts memes funny
      January 13, 2020 6:46 PM MST
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  • 46117
    Well, they come from the same selfish center.  

    If you please your companion, are you doing it for a boon?  Some spiritual boon that will get you straight to heaven?  Or perhaps you want him to treat you in like kind?  In other words, you want something.  Just as selfish as pleasing yourself.

    So, if you can love and not be attached to the outcome, then you are doing it right.  

    No one can take that kind of path unless you are Jesus or close to it.
      January 13, 2020 6:23 PM MST
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  • 16763
    Love is a condition in which the beloved's happiness is essential to your own. If it's not mutual, get outta there.
      January 13, 2020 11:29 PM MST
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  • A wise person would say that pleasing a companion should be pleasurable enough for oneself, but if that wise man is also a narcissist it only ever goes one way, and that’s the wise man’s. 

     

      February 6, 2020 8:43 AM MST
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