My earliest memory: my mother holding my hand as I laboriously climbed the flight of stairs into our new home. I was 3-years-old.
I’m the third-born of five (surviving) siblings, my eldest sister is the first-born and then my mother had three sons all born thirteen months apart almost to the week. My elder brother was born on the 26th of the month, I was born on the 21st of the next month but one year later, and my younger brother was born on the 25th of the next month but one year after I was born. As such, we were all three close enough in age that we grew up in close levels of social dynamics and development.
One of my earliest memories* is the home we lived in when I was about two and a half or three. My younger brother was old enough that he was with the rest of us chasing each other around in the front yard, laughing and screaming like kids do. There were about seven or eight of us total, including some neighbor children. The yard itself was flat and roomy for us to play in, but it gave way to a hill that dropped down toward the street and seemed as steep as Mount Everest to us, and we were afraid to get too close to the edge lest we roll down it and fall off the edge of the earth’s surface.
I remember the house was painted white, and it was either a triplex or quadriplex or row of one-story apartments, because the façade was a row of front doors, and there were no spaces between the houses. We did not live in one of the end houses, our door was either in the middle of three or another inner door.
It must have been fall or early winter, because even though we were are having a lot of fun, I remember the wind suddenly picking up as a big gust hit us. I remember shivering and wondering why I got so cold all of a sudden. I saw the tree branches and bushes moving as the wind took them, the scattered leaves taking flight, and all I wanted to do was go inside the house. I didn’t really understand weather yet, so I didn’t know the cool breeze of late afternoon or early evening was the reason for my chills.
My mother’s rule was “in or out”; if we were going to play outside, we had to stay outside, if we went inside, we’d have to stay inside, no running back and forth in and out of the house. Also, it was “all or none”. If one of us went in, we all had to go in. I was cold and wanted to go inside, but that meant no running, no chasing, no loud voices, no throwing of anything, we’d have to sit down somewhere and be quiet and worse: stay still. I didn’t want to be the one who caused us all to go inside, so I kept my mouth shut and kept running around, even though I was cold.
My mother told me years later that we only lived in that house for about a year.
Fast forward about sixteen years after my blustery day. I had just graduated Marine Corps boot camp and was back home on leave before reporting to my permanent base. I had a lot of free time on my hands, and one thing I did was to visit that old neighborhood and to see the house from my toddler days. I had never been back there since that time. The building itself looked tinier than I had remembered, but Mount Everest looked about as intimidating as a pitcher’s mound on a baseball diamond.
*I have a lot of memories of when my family lived in that house, but I don’t know their chronology. This story above is one of my many vivid memories of that time, perhaps the most vivid one, but it may or may not be precisely the earliest, merely because I don’t know their order.
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Wait, if he’s your oldest brother, he would have been born before you were born . . .