Back in the second year of our relationship, 34 years ago, his housemate suggested that we all write a list of each other's best qualities. I wrote an A4 page for each person in the house, including my then-not-yet husband, 25 lines per page, one quality per line. The others did the same. But for me, He wrote, "she's a good cook." It was the source of our first quarrel. I didn't want to be with someone who had such a low opinion of me that he could only think of one good thing to say. But he virtually begged me, almost in tears, not to abandon him, and finally admitted that he loved me. So I stayed.
To this day, I still don't know what he really thinks of me because he doesn't say. I have asked, but he just goes blank and speechless, so I've learned it's useless. I have to admit that it's not a nice feeling. It really would be nice to know that he thinks good things, but I think to him I am more like the walls, simply there holding up the roof.
This post was edited by inky at September 23, 2018 5:35 PM MDT
I kept waiting for the spell check to catch paradym. I have always had a problem with absence vs absense. I am very average speller. Apparently the word paradym is used by a number of businesses.
I would like to take this opportunity to tell you Nom de Plume, you are a wonderful writer. By your chosen name and your avatar, I can tell you have taste and class. I find it very pleasurable to read you and consider you my friend. I appreciate you very much. It is unfortunate he doesn't know how lucky he is. Just so you know, I think you are a very cool person. :) :)
This post was edited by Merlin at September 24, 2018 7:10 PM MDT
Our marriage is sorta the same. She rarely says anything nice to me and I compliment her quite a bit. Or I used too. Now I feel that I am just a provider of stuff. Long story, but I keep my answers short here.
My wife complements me all the time by telling me I'm like a hoe but she is talking about a Backhoe because with my hand shovel I can dig a irrigation ditch pretty quickly. Cheers!
That's funny Nanoose! Good Job! My husband could use your skill right about now with his houses. He'd give you a backhoe so you wouldn't have to use your hand shovel. I'm sure you could if you prefer... Quite a talent! Cheers to you! ;) :)
I really hate the use of the word partner to refer to a boyfriend or husband. I also hate SO. Just say husband, boyfriend, or fella. You guys can say girlfriend, wife, or gal. Never old lady/man.
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