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Do you feel that you're becoming kinder and more gentle as you age?

Posted - September 28, 2020

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  • 8339
    I know I am but please don't tell any of my cannabis competitors because they might figure that I am getting soft and start thinking they can punk me. Cheers!
      September 28, 2020 7:57 PM MDT
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  • 8000
    Mum's the word. 

    Cheers! 
      September 28, 2020 8:00 PM MDT
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  • 46875

     

      Nope. (Just being truthful.)

    ~

      September 28, 2020 8:57 PM MDT
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  • 8000
    Grumpy old man! Maybe retirement isn't suiting you well?

      September 29, 2020 6:41 PM MDT
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  • 46875

     

      Nothing of the kind. I’ve only been retired for a few months now. My answer to your question encompasses the past couple of decades of aging, during which time I haven’t changed very much in the areas of kindness and gentleness, either more kind and gentle or less kind and gentle. 

    ~

      September 29, 2020 7:49 PM MDT
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  • 8000
    Interesting. 

    Hey, is interesting just a kinder word for weird? 

      September 29, 2020 7:56 PM MDT
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  • 46875

    Grrrrrrrr. 

      September 29, 2020 7:58 PM MDT
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  • 7262
    The older I get, the fewer f**ks I have to give.
      September 28, 2020 9:27 PM MDT
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  • 1088
    The fewer f*"cks you're forced to give. This post was edited by CosmicWunderkind at September 29, 2020 6:28 PM MDT
      September 29, 2020 5:15 AM MDT
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  • 8000
    I guess I get that. 

    I don't give nearly as many f*cks as I used to, but I still think I am generally more forgiving of people than I used to be. I'm sure that I'm not less generous than I've been in the past. 

    I think I'm thinking of different kinds of f*cks. I'm far less concerned about what other people think of me than I have been in the past, and I don't try to draw attention to my own kindnesses/good deeds. Yet, I believe I have more compassion for others than I used to and try to keep myself and my own feelings and needs on the back burner much more than I used to. 

    If that makes no sense, I get it. I'm confused by it myself. :)




      September 29, 2020 6:40 PM MDT
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  • 12816
    I think 'more considerate' would cover it in my case.
      September 28, 2020 9:56 PM MDT
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  • 8000
    That's great! I think I am more compassionate and empathetic than I used to be, but I've lost patience for certain things. 

      September 29, 2020 6:46 PM MDT
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  • 6274
    Not at all, I've always been kind and gentle. 
      September 29, 2020 1:05 AM MDT
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  • 8000
    Very good!
      September 29, 2020 6:47 PM MDT
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  • 13978
    Slower and more tired. I also no longer have to be the "responsible parent", I spoil my grandchildren scandalously.
      September 29, 2020 2:20 AM MDT
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  • 8000
    Haha! I feel you! 

    No one is calling me Grandma-ma yet, but I still have hopes! :)
      September 29, 2020 6:49 PM MDT
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  • 13978
    Grumpy is their favourite superhero. I never have to be the "bad guy", discipline is Daddy's problem.
      September 29, 2020 6:55 PM MDT
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  • Yes I do feel like a friendlier person than I was 15 years ago.  A lot of it having to do with my mind potentially outgrowing some social dysfunction. Plus some much needed patience with my fellow human. It took me a long time to learn that we're not perfect and we never will be. 
      September 29, 2020 7:37 AM MDT
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  • 8000
    It's amazing how we can evolve (or devolve, for that matter), isn't it? 

    I really noticed the change in myself when I found myself thinking forgivingly about my ex-husband and embracing my own mistakes and flaws within that relationship. A few years ago, I wouldn't have ever seen that happening.

    Thanks for your reply!
      September 29, 2020 6:53 PM MDT
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  • 46875

     

      Sounds like to me someone’s going to reconcile!  


    (P.S. I hope you’re registered at the AnswerMug Gift Shop, because that’s the only place I’m shopping for your gift!)
    ~

      September 29, 2020 7:56 PM MDT
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  • 8000
    Funniest thing EVER!!!

    I'm very happy to have a polite, virtually non-existent relationship with my ex-husband. 




      September 29, 2020 8:10 PM MDT
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  • 46875

     

      That’s a good outlook for you to have; it leaves more room for me to put the moves on you. No pesky ex-husbandlike encumbrances.

     


    ~

      November 26, 2020 11:50 AM MST
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  • 40133
    Just a tad less so.
      September 29, 2020 11:06 AM MDT
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  • 8000
    I think there might be a curve. Like, we're born 100% selfish a-holes by necessity and most of us remain much that way for a good 15-30 years, depending on the person. Hopefully this lessens a bit by the time we're parents and partners, and might peak when we're mid-life and then we start to revert back to our more selfish, less kind and gentle selves as things begin to wind down? 

    Just a theory. 
    Thanks. 
      September 29, 2020 7:03 PM MDT
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