I am wondering how I can help you understand – while recognising that it seems you are resistant to doing so.. and that my attempts are only using up my time and energy…However, let’s have another try as after this I really do need to get stuck into my assignment.
By your logic – I could claim that when you accuse me of lying, that that is a lie. However, I wouldn’t do that because it would be technically incorrect. Your statement that I lied is incorrect – but that doesn’t mean it’s a lie – it’s not a lie, because it fails to meet the definition and acceptance of what a lie it.. It was technical reasoning there.
It is also true that when someone, using the word lie, in a way that is technically incorrect, for something that isn’t -this is usually a sign that the writer of the original words, is using manipulative language. Language designed to elicit an emotional response. Occasionally the person doing this really is unaware of their actions, it’s often habitual
Similarly, when you used the word sugarcoat – this is an emotive word, especially used in the context it was used. My issue with it is, not that you in any way offended me, not that I felt insulted – rather that, just like your dislike of grammar – this TOO is an incorrect use of language given your stated intent to be factually correct. SO, to explore the definition of sugarcoat – it is usually used to describe a conveying of truth, but done in a nice way, a caring way… Since what you said was not the truth, and I demonstrated why this was and have reiterated it above – yours was a statement of your opinion, but that didn’t make it truth and it didn’t change the fact that you were using the word lie incorrectly – then the use of the word sugarcoating was not used in its correct way – it was a slanted version of it. One that was intended, I suspect to attempt to belittle. In the context it was used – the idea, I believe, was to suggest that the recipient was being a baby, being overly sensitive and unnecessarily so… How clever, subtle and amazing the English language is -that by changing one word we can change a statement of fact into an emotive and manipulative sentence which makes it imprecise and which is challengable, especially when we then try to claim it as truth.
Once we start adding emotive, manipulative words we lose the truth; it’s no longer fact – it’s opinion, For example: The dog it brown – this is a factual statement when applied to a brown canine. If we were to say, The dog is stupid and lazy. The that’s no longer fact. It has now moved from the realm of fact, into opinion and slanted one at that.. When we use words like incessant, and sweeping statements like, “you always, you never, everything you do… “ well then we are engaging in manipulative language and like it or not, understand it or not -then it is an attempt to manipulate and belittle with the intent to shut down their responses, to denigrate them and make them feel that rather than address the issue, they have to instead defend themselves… It is what it is.. denying it really doesn’t change the facts.
Now, I truly would love to spend as much time as it takes on this.. to help you understand and use language more accurately but I really do have an assignment to work on and the bulk of the research much be written up this week. After that things hot up until the assignment is handed in. I have a few posts I want to make first and I WILL be back I promise once the assignment’s done.