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Is telling people "life isn't fair" really just a nicer way to tell them to shut up and accept injustice?

Posted - July 11, 2018


  • 10076
    No.  It is saying there is no such thing as fair.  Better to learn this early.  We aren't all born with the same starts right there.
      July 11, 2018 7:13 PM MDT

  • 2711
    Nice or not, it's simply a straightforward statement of reality.

    Life is not fair, nor is it necessarily safe, inherently good or rational. This post was edited by Don Barzini at July 12, 2018 11:50 AM MDT
      July 11, 2018 7:41 PM MDT

  • 2621
    HaHaHa, the brush off.  Don't go away mad, just go away... This post was edited by Beans/SilentGeneration at July 12, 2018 7:41 AM MDT
      July 11, 2018 9:39 PM MDT

  • 5621
    Aye, indeed. More or less.
      July 11, 2018 10:34 PM MDT

  • 5994
    Life may not be fair but there is justice if you can afford it.
      July 11, 2018 10:50 PM MDT

  • 5667
    Yup, that's what it means.
      July 12, 2018 12:02 AM MDT

  • 20135
    Why be nice? Just tell them the latter. They'll leave you alone.
      July 12, 2018 4:46 AM MDT

  • 21289

      Some people just complicate things too much: 

      July 12, 2018 6:26 AM MDT

  • 4152
    I think the message is more "stop being so self-centered and overly sensitive and expecting everything to go your way and just get on with your life".  If all you look for is "injustice" you will certainly find it under every rock. 
      July 12, 2018 7:04 AM MDT

  • 2878
    Yes. That's exactly what it means. 
      July 12, 2018 7:29 AM MDT

  • 4377
    No, it's a way of telling people that even when you do all the right things, you can still have bad stuff happen to you.
      July 12, 2018 7:43 AM MDT

  • 21289

      I know, right?  For example, as good as I am, and with all my positive qualities, there's this lady who heaps countless restraining orders on me . . . 
      July 12, 2018 9:30 AM MDT

  • 4377
    Or, for example, I can mind my own business, and still have a stalker who ignores all restraining orders.
      July 12, 2018 10:19 AM MDT

  • 21289

      You should call the police.  Wait, I'll do it for you; what's this guy's name, please?

      July 13, 2018 5:13 AM MDT

  • 8726
    If you want fair you have to be merger rich and buy it via the the legal system....:(
      July 12, 2018 8:04 AM MDT

  • 1718

    While fairness sometimes equals justice ... the two are not always the same.

    Some may think it's "unfair" that I am naturally gifted towards math, and didn't have to study it as hard as they did to get good grades.
    However, that doesn't make my grades "unjust" compared to theirs.
      July 12, 2018 9:03 AM MDT

  • 4152
    Good points.
      July 12, 2018 9:09 AM MDT

  • 21289

      That sounds like me on the subject of grammar. I am, however, ungifted in the math arena. How unfair, right?  Oops. 

      July 12, 2018 9:28 AM MDT

  • 5402
    I'd say that it doesn't always mean that.. for instance, I say that a lot and what I mean by it is... don't feel bad, these things happen, and not just to you, you are not alone.. I am trying, I guess to empathise and say, I understand. 
      July 12, 2018 11:53 AM MDT

  • 671
    Depends on what context, if a parents had enough of their child going on and on, then yes it is said to shut them up. However, life being unfair is a good lesson to learn, and the reasons as to why it will never be fair, this is what drove people to fight for human rights, equal rights, women's rights, black rights etc.  However, some of these fights have been meaningless if one doesn't accept some basic facts, such as the physical differences between men and women, or between races, shouting equal rights, without accepting a dose of fact and realism is nonsensical.
      July 17, 2018 11:03 AM MDT