Hello Element99 Yes...yes I do. I have children and an extended family that I am very close to. I do however, since my kids left the nest, feel quite alone at times. the house just feels empty..
This post was edited by designer at April 29, 2019 9:04 AM MDT
Hello again Element99 'Satisfying, comfortable, worrisome, intense. The love between a parent and child is like no other. It cannot be explained. I was a single Dad to a son and a daughter and developed a very strong bond with both. I miss them terribly. Whenever I feel depressed or lose my self for awhile, one thought of them and I know exactly what I need to do... We have not had much interaction here, but I have seen what you write and I am sure, with your kindness and great attitude, your ability to empathize and understand, that there are indeed people who love you.
I think its sometimes rare for us to acknowledge that we are loved by family or friends. Some people are not demonstrative, so someone could love you and you just can't see it! You will know when something unfortunate puts you in need, then those same people you thought didn't love you, come through for you with compassion, caring, help and yes Love! It happens to all of us, we are surprised by the goodness of someone we thought didn't give a damn and they prove us wrong. That's a really good feeling:)
Yep. My husband demonstrates it with caring actions and one quality day each week sharing some enjoyable outing. My friends show it through their desire to spend time with me.
I think to be loved one must be willing to go a long way towards meeting the other person's emotional needs. That means sharing tea/coffee/meals together, going for walks, asking lots of questions, listening, and giving appropriate, honest and loving responses, shared interests and activities, and giving practical help when it's needed. When they spontaneously do the same a loving relationship develops.
If someone is an alcoholic, forget it; what drug addicts call love is just dependency and manipulation. The first casualty of Korsakoff's dementia is empathy, and that makes genuine love impossible.
This post was edited by inky at April 29, 2019 9:03 AM MDT
I do. My better half, kids and grandson are demonstrative about it (my granddaughter couldn't care less, but given that she's only six months old, that's understandable). It's not sex, it's not hugs or smiles or anything like that (except in my grandson's case, he's always jumping onto Grumpy's lap for a hug). It's being there, understanding me and caring about me even when I'm not particularly lovable.
I promise E99, You are loved. You are loved by the maker of this whole universe. That is a powerful love to have wash over you. You are loved by friends and family whether it be just one or 21. Without them, and they without you, your story would lack colour. and from you I see a prism. You are loved by people who may never even see your face. such as those of us at the Mug. Those who light up every time you log on. I am among their number. Trust me, you are so loved and when it isn't enough to search for it from others then look within yourself. There is no you better than you. Plant love in you own heart and it will spread out elsewhere its contagious. Give it to others even those not deserving and it will find its way back to you. I believe that and I pray that for everyone. Especially for you, right now. its everywhere. Feel the love.
This is a favorite song of mine written by Fred Rogers of "Mr. Roger's Neighborhood." It's so sweet. I always loved his ability to speak to children as well as to the heart of the child which exists in everyone of us.
"It's You I Like" by Amy Grant
The way you are right now, The way down deep inside you-- Its you yourself its you I like It's you I like, It's not the things you wear, It's not the way you do your hair-- But it's you I like The way you are right now, The way down deep inside you-- Not the things that hide you, Not your toys-- They're just beside you.
But it's you I like-- Every part of you, Your skin, your eyes, your feelings Whether old or new. I hope that you'll remember Even when you're feeling blue That it's you I like, It's you yourself, It's you, it's you I like.
( I appreciate your question and relate in some ways. Hope your'e doing well. You are loved. Even when we may not feel it ourselves. That can be a challenging thing to "get" in ourselves.)
This post was edited by WelbyQuentin at April 30, 2019 3:33 PM MDT
I am sure you are loved. Everyone expresses their love in different ways. You might want to look into this book by Gary Chapman. Someone maybe showing their love in a way you are not recognizing.
The Five Love Languages. ... It outlines five ways to express and experience the love that Chapman calls "love languages": receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch.
Please don't take this as me being rude. I don't care. I was raised in a loveless environment and it's all I have ever known. People say they love me...I just don't feel it. Consequently, I don't love myself as I don't know what it is. I probably never will. I accept it.
I heard an interview with the author. He was talking to a man in prison who said he did not believe his mother loved him. She had only said it once to him and that was the day he was sentenced to prison. But after reading the book he realized his Mom always made sure he had what he needed by cleaning, making dinner and washing his clothing etc. That was her love language "acts of service."
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