Adult questions belong in the Adult Groups section, not on this main page.
Some very mildly adult stuff, with jokey style and indirect innuendo or metaphor gets by OK if the tone is flirtatious and not provocative.
Most likely you unintentionally wrote something that offended against the TOS (Terms of Service,) the rules that are a pre-condition for participation here. To double-check you can go to Home: FAQ + help: What are the Rules on AnsweMug? and then within the text click on the words "Terms of Service Page."
On the "What are the Rules on AnsweMug?" page, if you scroll down it explains the protocols for warnings, etc.
There's a chance that My2cents happened to come across something you wrote, As a MOD she would have discussed it with the team and come to a consensus before notifying you with a warning.
But there's also a chance that some other Mugger was seriously bothered by something you said. On the lowest line beneath each post, there's are options to respond to the post. One of those options is "flag." That's used when a Mugger wants to complain to the admin that something is inappropriate or offensive. People have different values - not everyone might agree. For that reason, the MOD team is composed of people with different views, some liberal and some conservative, 50-50. If they can't agree, JA as the last word. It's her site soe she has the right, but in my view, she is scrupulously fair. She is extremely experienced with social sites, knows exactly how and why Experience Project fell apart. Her goal is to ensure that the seeds of self-destruction never get a chance to be sown here. It may make the site a bit too tame for some people's tastes, but if so, they don't belong here.
The truth is, it's possible to say almost anything and everything in a civilised and polite way without causing offence to others. Some topics are forbidden on this mainboard because there could be minors here. That still leaves an infinite number of other topics.
This post was edited by inky at January 2, 2020 7:41 AM MST
I have no idea what you wrote or when, as I pop in and out of this site, ( I am supposed to be working on a final essay!) but I do have some sympathy, in that, in the past, I have been rapped on the knuckles when I didn't think it was fair.
I think for me, it's perhaps a slight cultural change, where I come from, it wouldn't be bad, but here on this site, it is deemed so.. I always make sure I remain polite and articulate.. but, there have been times when others felt differently.. I don't agree but at the end of the day, if we choose to remain here, then quite honestly.. they can make whatever rules they like and we DO have to endeavour to remain within those boundaries..
So, as I say.. I have sympathy, it doesn't feel nice when you believe you haven't done anything wrong.. but, them's the breaks..
Ahh.... actually, scratch that.. I DO know how it feels to be wrongly accused.. but, looking at some of your posts.... it seems there's perhaps some fairly obvious reasons why they might have warned you?
PS we aren't allowed to use people's names or, anything that might identify them in questions :P
This post was edited by Adaydreambeliever at January 2, 2020 7:42 AM MST
It's a bit of a culture shock compared to certain other sites where anything goes, I'm sure. But, we are a small privately-owned and operated site run entirely by volunteers and have different policies. We make every attempt to grab people before they come on and give them a head's up about the policy differences, but not everyone reads the screens.
The general areas are all PG-13. We have a "hidden" adult subnetwork with groups like adultMug for content with more mature themes. If you need help unlocking it or finding it, send me an email and I'll get you squared away. (It's not the most intuitive process, I know.)
The purpose of the first message from a moderator is always just to let the person know we removed something and why, so they can avoid having further removals. Most folks do just fine once they understand the policies. There is a chain after that which involves breaks from the site and ultimately removal, all outlined in the FAQ section, but it rarely comes to that. We aren't high-tech, so you do have to learn where mature content can be posted and make sure you're only posting it in those places. There's a learning curve, and we get that, which is why you get a courtesy notice to help you learn and adapt.
Right now, our moderation team consists of two; M2C, a member who has been incredibly awesome and has been volunteering her personal time for years, and me, the site owner. You're always welcomed to shoot me a message if you feel something has been removed unfairly (as in not in accordance with our policies), but we both review all removals the other has made as is.
Every place has their rules. They're for everyone's benefit. Seems to be a very enjoyable site ... I say bravo to them for making it available for us to use.
Livvie 