I was into adulthood when one day I decided I was going to say something to him the next time he was verbally abusive. Prior to that I had gone to him and told him what he says to... moreI was into adulthood when one day I decided I was going to say something to him the next time he was verbally abusive. Prior to that I had gone to him and told him what he says to me sometimes hurts my feelings and his response was that they're only words. I had to build up the courage because I had never stood up to him before. But the time came when he called me a name and I went right up to him and said the same thing back to him. I'll never forget the look of shock on his face and before I left, I turned to him and said, oh come on now, they're only words, aren't they. Even though I was shaking like a leaf, I'll never forget that feeling I had when I finally stood up to him. I didn't think it would feel so powerful to have that weight lifted off my shoulder. Were you ever verbally abused. If so, how did you handle it? less
I think the UPSTANDERS can get bullied.
I think the UPSTANDERS can turn into tattle-tales
I think the UPSTANDERS can easily become right-wingers and try and prove their "GOODNESS" ... moreI think the UPSTANDERS can get bullied.
I think the UPSTANDERS can turn into tattle-tales
I think the UPSTANDERS can easily become right-wingers and try and prove their "GOODNESS" by showing everyone else's badness
Or they can actually be GOOD KIDS.
What say you?
She is not too bad, not over the top, but little things like when the toddler gets milk vs. juice in a day, and when he should have a jacket on , and when he falls and I'm consolin... moreShe is not too bad, not over the top, but little things like when the toddler gets milk vs. juice in a day, and when he should have a jacket on , and when he falls and I'm consoling him, she takes him from me. I just wondered how others might view /feel? I often doubt my own feelings and I know she is a great mom... it is just a few things sometimes I wonder , b/c I am someone with many years child care experience.. another thing I'm not sure on, she has not said my name to the child (1 1/2 yrs. old).. she'll say 'say hi' , but never with my name. I take care of him/teach him, and I don't take it that personally, but I just also wondered what others may think... ty for your ideas. less
