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Benedict Arnold

I have a real question: I noticed someone else on this site asked about dating outside of their race...

I’ve also noticed on the net (not just here) that people seem to respond with ´we’re all human race.’  How are people supposed to refer to inter-racial dating now? Is there another word? Is it offensive now to call someone a different race and if so why? Okay, that’s 3 or 4 question but I honestly don’t understand. 

Posted - March 29, 2019
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  • Lol, exactly :)
      March 29, 2019 1:56 PM MDT
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  • 46117
    Nofunding?  Who is that?  She is gone.  She has been replaced.  
      March 29, 2019 11:52 AM MDT
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  • 469
    LOL, you're funny!  I wish I could replace myself sometimes.
      March 29, 2019 1:12 PM MDT
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  • 23577

    I almost feel like giving up answering lately.
    But your question is good.

    I took that other question as people from other countries, areas of the world, whatever.

    Add me to the stupid list Twinkle Dink mentioned.
    :)
      March 29, 2019 10:57 AM MDT
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  • I think I’m in that list with you :)
      March 29, 2019 11:23 AM MDT
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  • 23577
    :)
      March 29, 2019 7:32 PM MDT
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  • 1305
    I have no problem with the word race, or black or white or Asian etc.  We do see colour and we also notice culture that can often go with a race of people, my friend has a Nigerian partner and they often eat a very different diet to white European whites, such as goat and dried fish with white rice, they are also very big on family,  they have two children from that union and one is aged five at present, and he has been very confused about his colour since going to nursery and now especially in the first year of infant school.  He often goes to school and wants his hair to be flat and straight like the white kids.  One night I heard him ask his mum what colour he was, his mum said "Whatever colour you want to be." "He replied "Well daddies black, you are white and I am brown," and was just as confused as ever. So children do see colour and the other differences that brings, and this does affect them, to say otherwise is ignorant, and we adults also see colour. Also many illnesses are more susceptible to a particular race, black people are more often prone to diabetes, my friend who is Jamaican has sickle cell anaemia, I know Jews are also prone to different ailments, and they have no problem with being proud of their racial identity.   

    Funny due to the insane "Western" political correctness, a police officer told me a story that they were looking for 5 men who were involved in a crime who were black.  However, the force didn't want to appear discriminative and so asked its officers to interview a few white people, to which the police officer said "And what if they white guy we stop happens to ask us what description we have of the perpetrators?  How can we turn round and say "Well approximately 6 foot, wearing blue jeans, blue coats....oh and they were black." They are going to say "Well why are you stopping and questioning me then?"  

    As a result I see nothing wrong with interracial marriage as a label to differentiate. Western society has gone mad, and I can definitely tell you, at the very least, black Nigerians see white folk as white, and have a good old crack about it, remember the comedians Dave Chappelle and Chris Rock, both very funny, and my friends partner loves watching them? I tell you this, black people like many white folk have no problem with colour or race, what they have a problem with is "hatred" aimed at someone simply because of their race, that is what racism is.










    This post was edited by kjames at March 30, 2019 9:03 AM MDT
      March 29, 2019 1:22 PM MDT
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  • Yes! I share your views on this, I’m just not good at expressing it the way you have here. Thank you, this is perfect :)

      March 29, 2019 1:55 PM MDT
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  • 7939
    I'm sooo tempted to give one of my really wordy responses here, but I'll try to be brief. It's still "interracial dating."If you want to be more PC, you could call it "intercultural dating," but that boils down to semantics, IMO. 

    I gravitate to online stuff, so when I realized I needed to be more social, I used apps to find new friends and date. I made friends and dated people of every shade. Being the "right color" was not a prerequisite. However, race typically indicates cultural differences, and race was always brought up in each new relationship I formed... not once by me. My Latina friend remarked she felt greater kinship toward other Latinas. My Filipino date from Hawaii remarked that "islanders stick together," and spoke of the differences between "islanders and rednecks." My Mexican/ Black date remarked that he wanted to introduce me to some form of ethnic dance/ music I'd never heard of. Even his screen name was a reference to being biracial. These people weren't ashamed of their colors nor their heritage and culture. They were proud of it. It is part of their identity. For me to say, "I don't see you as anything other than a human," is to say, "Your background and your identity- things that matter to you- are irrelevant to me." 

    They weren't irrelevant to me. They mattered. In fact, I enjoyed the fact that they are all different from me. Sure, the dates didn't work out. I'm not sure how much that had to do with cultural differences vs just being incompatible, but there's no benefit to being "color blind." We're not honoring people by pretending the differences don't exist. 
      March 29, 2019 5:16 PM MDT
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  • 6098
    Cultural differences are not necessarily the same as skin pigmentation differences.  I feel more comfortable with someone more culturally similar to me even of another skin color.  Just as can be cultural differences in people of the same skin color.  I would not want to live like my southern relatives who proudly consider themselves "rednecks".  I can enjoy certain aspects of a different culture but no way would I want to immerse myself in it.  Because I am not comfortable with it.  Which is why I choose to marry someone more like the kind of person my parents would have wanted to see me settle down with forty years ago.  We share so many of the same comforts and ideals and expectations. 
      March 30, 2019 6:11 AM MDT
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  • I wasn’t  really sure what my problem was with people saying ‘we are all human race’, when I first asked this question. The more answers and discussions I had on this thread,  I realized it was the “colour blind” thing that bothered and confused me.
    I agree with your opinion, « there's no benefit to being "colour blind." We're not honoring people by pretending the differences don't exist. « 

    Thank you :)

      March 30, 2019 8:42 AM MDT
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  • Technically speaking we are all nine race.   When people say there are no races they don't mean there are no ethnicities .  They are expressing the fact that the different ethnicities do not make up separate races.   
      March 29, 2019 7:41 PM MDT
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  • Short answer.  "Race" for better or worse has become the common.language form ethnicity on top of its true definition.  Don't worry about it,  the ones offended by you saying biracial are fringe trigger monkies who will always find a micro aggression to hold against you no matter your actual actions or core beliefs.
      March 29, 2019 7:46 PM MDT
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  • Some people want to be triggered lol. 
      March 30, 2019 8:42 AM MDT
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  • Man I cannot believe how unnecessarily long winded these answers are.   Hol y crap.  Brevity is your friend people.
      March 30, 2019 9:09 AM MDT
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  • 46117
    Look.  I ANSWER ANY WAY I PLEASE. If you don't like it?  Go to Answer ONE LINER.  
      March 30, 2019 9:11 AM MDT
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  • Not everything is about you Sharron.  ;)
      March 30, 2019 9:13 AM MDT
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  • 46117
    LOL

    I would love to see anything ABOUT ME in my posts.  The only thing I say about me is when I have to answer some question asking about me.  Not my favorite subject.

    I don't know you.  So.  You don't get to say what everything is about.  Or anything about me.


    I happened upon this comment:


    Man I cannot believe how unnecessarily long winded these answers are.   Hol y crap.  Brevity is your friend people.


    Thus, I came upon the LONG-Winded reply.

    I must have taken it out of context.  I make loads of mistakes. But that is how I get to know everyone on here.  I fight with them and then we make up and love each other.  I don't know why it works.  I don't do it on purpose.
     


    This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at March 30, 2019 9:24 AM MDT
      March 30, 2019 9:21 AM MDT
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  • "Look.  I ANSWER ANY WAY I PLEASE. If you don't like it?  Go to Answer ONE LINER"


    Keep with the context.   I'm teasng you FFS
      March 30, 2019 9:30 AM MDT
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  • Long winded? Who are you talking to? I bet they’re the type of people who could start a convo at 10pm that doesn’t end till the sun comes up. Gawd, so annoying. ;p

      March 30, 2019 9:20 AM MDT
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  • Tell.me about it. Story of my life since going blonde.
      March 30, 2019 9:31 AM MDT
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  • ramble ramble lol. 
      March 30, 2019 9:33 AM MDT
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  • 34283
    Inter-racial is the correct term. 

    We all come in different colors and that is just a fact and acknowledging that is not racist or bigoted. 

    Some people just look for something to complain about regardless of the topic. 

    Human is our species not our race.

    My sister in law and her husband went to marriage counseling and one of the questions the counselor asked first was: How do your families feel about you being in an inter-racial marriage?

    So she asked us. We told her they needed a new counselor cause they were not in inter-racial marriage. She is a white woman whose ancestors are from Europe. He was a white man who was born in Europe (Czech). They have a multi-cultural marriage but not inter-racial. 
      March 30, 2019 6:49 AM MDT
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  • I agree, thank you :)
      March 30, 2019 8:43 AM MDT
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  • 22891
    i would date sorneone of another race if they asked rne
      March 31, 2019 5:41 PM MDT
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