Or, would you keep it secret and have it only between yourself and your SO? Would you keep any illness a secret and not tell anyone? I grew up in a family that doesn't tell. So far... moreOr, would you keep it secret and have it only between yourself and your SO? Would you keep any illness a secret and not tell anyone? I grew up in a family that doesn't tell. So far, that hasn't worked out well for any of them that has kept quiet.